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Latihan shadowing: “Something Funny Happens When You Stop Needing Women” - Mark Manson

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  1. Neediness occurs when you place a higher priority on what others think of you than what you think of yourself.Kebutuhan muncul ketika kamu prioritaskan apa kata orang lain tentang dirimu daripada apa yang kamu pikir tentang dirimu sendiri.0:00
  2. Anytime you alter your words or behavior to fit someone else's needs rather than your own, that's needy.Kapan pun kamu ubah kata-katamu atau perilakumu untuk memenuhi kebutuhan orang lain daripada kebutuhan sendiri, itu namanya needy.0:05
  3. Anytime you lie about your interests, hobbies or background, that's needy.Kapan pun kamu berbohong tentang minat, hobi, atau latar belakang kamu, itu needy.0:11
  4. Anytime you pursue a goal to impress others rather than fulfill yourself, that's needy.Kapan pun kamu kejar suatu tujuan untuk mengesankan orang lain daripada memenuhi diri sendiri, itu needy.0:15
  5. Whereas most people focus on what behavior is attractive or unattractive, what determines neediness and therefore attractiveness is the why behind your behavior.Sementara kebanyakan orang fokus pada perilaku apa yang menarik atau tidak menarik, yang menentukan neediness dan sekaligus daya tarik adalah alasan di balik perilakumu.0:20
  6. You can say the coolest thing or do what everyone else does, but if you do it for the wrong reason, you will come off as needy and desperate andKamu bisa bilang hal paling keren atau lakukan apa yang orang lain lakukan, tapi kalau kamu lakukan karena alasan yang salah, kamu akan terlihat needy dan desperate dan0:28
  7. turn people off.membuat orang lain kesal.0:36
  8. Pulling out the classics.Nyetor yang klasik.0:38
  9. That's an old one, dude.Itu yang lama, bro.0:40
  10. The old hits.Hits yang tua-tua.0:40
  11. That's from models.Itu dari Models.0:41
  12. Just gonna be 15 years old this year.Baru mau genap 15 tahun tahun ini.0:43
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  1. Unreal.Gila.0:45
  2. Everyone needs to go and read it, dude.Semua orang harus baca itu, bro.0:46
  3. Anyone that needs a new book, go and read an old book.Siapa yang butuh buku baru, baca aja buku lama.0:47
  4. And that is now an old book.Dan itu sekarang menjadi buku lama.0:50
  5. It is.Betul.0:51
  6. Thanks to that and mate by Jeffrey Miller and Tucker Max at the two car garage of dating Bugs for Men.Terima kasih Models dan Mate sama Jeffrey Miller dan Tucker Max di The Car Garage of Dating Bugs for Men.0:52
  7. That's it.Itu aja.0:58
  8. And it's still relevant now.Dan masih relevan sampai sekarang.0:59
  9. It's mad that like, hey, a t -shirt that fits and jeans that don't have stains on them is still probably revolutionary advice for a lot of guys.Gila kalau mikirnya, hei, kaos yang cocok dan celana jeans yang nggak bernoda masih jadi saran revolusioner buat banyak cowok.1:00
  10. But yeah, it's fucking, it's money.Tapi yeah, it's fucking, it's money.1:10
  11. But the whole thesis of that book for the people that haven't read it, neediness is unattractive.Tapi tesis utama buku itu buat yang belum baca, kebutuhan itu nggak menarik.1:13
  12. Basically, you could summarize the whole book for men as in dating.Basically, kamu bisa summarize seluruh buku tentang pria dalam hal dating.1:18
  13. Yes.Ya.1:21
  14. Neediness is unattractive.Kebutuhan itu nggak menarik.1:22
  15. It's really funny because, so people listening who don't know, like I started my career as a dating coach.Ini lucu banget karena, jadi orang yang dengar yang nggak tahu, aku mulai karir aku sebagai dating coach.1:23
  16. And from like 2008 to like 2013 models came out in 2011.Dan dari seperti 2008 sampai 2013 Models keluar tahun 2011.1:31
  17. But I was meeting dozens and dozens of guys in person.Tapi aku ketemu puluhan dan puluhan cowok secara langsung.1:38
  18. I was taking them out to bars and clubs and helping them meet girls online and giving them advice on dates, on relationships, everything.Aku bawa mereka ke bar dan club dan bantu mereka ketemu perempuan online dan kasih advice tentang date, tentang relationship, segalanya.1:42
  19. And it was so funny because at the time it was like the whole men's dating advice space, it was super fragmented.Dan itu lucu banget karena waktu itu seluruh ruang men's dating advice, itu super fragmented.1:50
  20. There was almost like different classes you had to take at a college, right?Hampir seperti ada kelas-kelas berbeda yang harus kamu ikuti seperti di college, kan?1:56
  21. There was like texting game and then there was like the first date that you had the master and then there was the opener that you had to like figureAda texting game dan terus ada first date yang harus kamu master dan terus ada opener yang harus kamu figure out.2:00
  22. out.out.2:07
  23. And I just, I kind of wanted a unified theory of men's attractiveness because what I noticed is that guys who were supremely attractive in one moment and one likeDan aku cuma, aku pengin unified theory tentang men's attractiveness karena yang aku notice adalah guys yang super attractive di satu momen dan satu fase2:08
  24. in one phase of the early relationship just seem to not really have any problems in any other part.early relationship mereka kayak nggak punya masalah di bagian lain manapun.2:23
  25. It's not like there were any men who were like amazing at meeting a girl in a bar and then went on a date and just embarrassed themselves.Bukan seperti ada cowok yang amazing di meet perempuan di bar tapi pas date jadi embarrass diri sendiri.2:30
  26. Like it just didn't really happen.Kayak nggak pernah terjadi gitu.2:38
  27. It was, you kind of either had...Itu, kamu punya...2:39
  28. Winners and losers.Winners dan losers.2:41
  29. Yeah, you either had the skills or you didn't.Ya, kamu punya skills atau kamu nggak punya.2:42
  30. And there was nothing special about like a text message or a second date that like you couldn't figure out if you had the fundamentals in place.Dan nggak ada yang special tentang text message atau second date yang seperti kamu nggak bisa figure out kalau kamu punya fundamentals.2:44
  31. So I was like kind of searching for this unified theory of like men's attractiveness and what I noticed about all of the men that I knew who were incrediblyJadi aku kayak searching untuk unified theory tentang men's attractiveness dan yang aku notice tentang semua cowok yang aku kenal yang super2:56
  32. successful with women regardless of their circumstances in life, you know, how old they were, their appearance, money, background, anything was they just had this...successful sama perempuan regardless dari circumstances mereka dalam hidup, kamu tahu, berapa umur mereka, appearance mereka, uang, background, apapun adalah mereka punya ini...3:05
  33. They prioritized their perception of themselves over the perception of the girls.Mereka prioritize perception mereka sendiri tentang diri daripada perception perempuan.3:20
  34. Like all the guys who were terrible with women and who struggled with women and even some of the ones who could kind of perform like a dancing monkey andSeperti semua cowok yang terrible sama perempuan dan yang struggle sama perempuan dan bahkan beberapa yang bisa perform seperti dancing monkey dan3:24
  35. maybe get a little like a hook up here and there but they would lose the girl inevitably within a few days.mungkin dapet dikit hook up sini sana tapi mereka bakal kehilangan perempuan inevitably dalam beberapa hari.3:32
  36. I noticed that everything that motivated what they said, what they did, how they dressed, how they presented themselves, it was what is she gonna like and what does sheAku notice bahwa semua yang motivate apa yang mereka bilang, apa yang mereka lakukan, gimana mereka dress, gimana mereka present diri, itu apa yang dia mau suka dan apa yang dia3:39
  37. want to hear.mau dengar.3:50
  38. And so it kind of, it became this...Dan jadi itu kayak...3:52
  39. What I realized around that time is that ultimately, and I think this is true for women as well you're comfort with yourself and how deeply you have explored yourApa yang aku realize waktu itu adalah ultimately, dan aku pikir ini true buat perempuan juga, kamu comfort sama diri sendiri dan seberapa dalam kamu sudah explore3:57
  40. own life, your own identity and your willingness to share that with the world.kehidupan sendiri, identitas sendiri dan kemauan kamu buat share itu sama dunia.4:15
  41. And the result, neediness was kind of that glue that held everything together or the concept of non -neediness, right?Dan hasilnya, kebutuhan adalah kayak glue yang hold segalanya atau konsep non-kebutuhan, kan?4:22
  42. It's like don't do things for other people's approval, don't change your lifestyle for other people's approval, don't work out for other people's approval, don't say some bullshit line inIni kayak don't do things buat approval orang, don't change lifestyle buat approval orang, don't work out buat approval orang, don't say bullshit line di4:29
  43. a bar for other people's approval.bar buat approval orang.4:39
  44. It's all the same thing, it's all just being needy for validation and approval.Semuanya sama, semuanya cuma needy buat validation dan approval.4:40
  45. I guess I'm fortunate it's just a very timeless concept.Aku rasa aku beruntung itu concept yang very timeless.4:50
  46. It's as true today as it was then.Itu true sekarang seperti dulu.4:55
  47. Yeah, and it probably always will be because it's...Ya, dan kayak akan terus true karena itu...4:56
  48. I think it's...Aku pikir itu...5:00
  49. If I was to describe my career in like a simple phrase, it would be taking very abstract and tangible concepts and like concretizing them in a single phrase orKalau aku describe karir aku dalam simple phrase, itu take abstract concepts yang very tangible dan like concretizing mereka dalam single phrase atau5:01
  50. a single term in a way that like an average person on the street can understand and use them.single term dalam cara yang like average person di jalan bisa understand dan use mereka.5:12
  51. That's essentially my entire job and like why I'm here and why I've done anything.Itu essentially seluruh job aku dan like kenapa aku di sini dan kenapa aku udah bikin apapun.5:19
  52. And I think the non -neediness was like my first real success at that.Dan aku pikir non-kebutuhan itu seperti first real success aku di itu.5:26
  53. Yeah, yeah, yeah, essentializing, distilling things down.Ya, ya, ya, essentializing, distilling things down.5:31
  54. Someone once, the two best descriptions I've ever heard of modern wisdom, one was...Someone once, two best descriptions aku pernah denger tentang modern wisdom, satu adalah...5:34
  55. Brains and bronze.Brains and bronze.5:41
  56. Yeah, it was crushing a Tuesday actually.Ya, itu crushing a Tuesday sebenarnya.5:42
  57. Dispelling, comforting myths was one and another one was...Dispelling, comforting myths itu satu dan yang lain adalah...5:45
  58. It feels like spirulina for my soul in an environment filled with fast food for my amygdala.It feels like spirulina for my soul dalam environment penuh fast food buat amygdala aku.5:51
  59. And I was like, that's lovely.Dan aku kayak, itu bagus.5:56
  60. It's very poetic.Itu very poetic.5:58
  61. But yeah, like look, essentializing something, there's this big fluffy concept.Tapi ya, like look, essentializing something, itu big fluffy concept.5:59
  62. Like what were we saying?Seperti apa yang kita bilang?6:02
  63. Overoptimization, too much information.Overoptimization, terlalu banyak informasi.6:04
  64. I'm feeling all...Aku feeling all...6:05
  65. I don't think that you're going to get, even with where LLMs are at the moment, I don't think you're going to be able to get the unwieldy world ofAku nggak pikir kamu bakal dapat, even dengan di mana LLMs sekarang, aku nggak pikir kamu bakal bisa dapat unwieldy world dari6:06
  66. human attraction distilled down to...human attraction distilled down menjadi...6:15
  67. Prioritize your approval of yourself over other people's approval of you.Prioritize approval kamu sendiri tentang diri daripada approval orang lain tentang kamu.6:20
  68. Don't be needy, right?Don't be needy, kan?6:25
  69. That is a distillation that kind of requires a human in the loop.Itu distillation yang kayak requires human dalam loop.6:27
  70. Because it's about language.Karena itu tentang language.6:31
  71. It's about, okay, what does this mean?Itu tentang, okay, apa arti ini?6:33
  72. Not what is it if you synthesize it, right?Bukan apa itu kalau kamu synthesize itu, kan?6:35
  73. It's not a synthetic idea.Itu bukan synthetic idea.6:38
  74. It's still quite an organic one.Itu still quite organic.6:39
  75. But yeah, when I think about the problem with the neediness thing, it also explains why so many guys felt like...Tapi ya, ketika aku pikir tentang problem sama kebutuhan thing, itu juga explain kenapa banyak banget cowok merasa...6:40
  76. I mean, the red pill movement was born out of PUA hate.Aku maksud, red pill movement itu born dari PUA hate.6:48
  77. Do you remember that?Kamu remember itu?6:51
  78. Yeah.Ya.6:52
  79. Yeah, because that was your era, the PUA hate thing.Ya, karena itu era kamu, PUA hate thing.6:53
  80. So these are guys who had...Jadi ini cowok yang punya...6:55
  81. I don't remember that for them.Aku nggak ingat itu buat mereka.6:56
  82. They found success or found failure with Pickup Artistry.Mereka found success atau found failure sama Pickup Artistry.6:57
  83. And I think that both of them were quite deranged.Dan aku pikir both dari mereka quite deranged.7:01
  84. The guys that had found failure with Pickup Artistry saw themselves as so broken that even the most evidence -based system to ensure that they could get laid couldn't helpCowok yang found failure sama Pickup Artistry saw themselves sebagai so broken bahwa even the most evidence-based system buat ensure bahwa mereka bisa get laid couldn't help7:03
  85. them.mereka.7:12
  86. And I mean, that's pretty disparaging.Dan aku maksud, itu pretty disparaging.7:13
  87. But then the guys who did find success with it also felt like they were disparate.Tapi terus cowok yang did find success sama itu juga felt seperti mereka disparate.7:14
  88. Because they said, God, look at how much I have to contort myself in order to be remotely attractive to a woman.Karena mereka bilang, God, lihat berapa banyak aku harus contort myself buat be remotely attractive sama perempuan.7:19
  89. And this is an example of none of them stopped to consider that it's just maybe the system is wrong.Dan itu example dari none dari mereka stopped buat consider bahwa it's just mungkin the system is wrong.7:26
  90. Like the model is incorrect.Seperti model itu incorrect.7:31
  91. And so they just assumed, no, women are incorrect, right?Dan jadi mereka assume, no, perempuan itu incorrect, kan?7:33
  92. It's like the problem isn't that every woman on the planet is broken.It's like problem bukan bahwa setiap perempuan di planet itu broken.7:37
  93. The problem is that your model of dating and human relationships is broken, but you're not willing to toss that out because you're so psychologically dependent on it.Problem adalah model kamu tentang dating dan human relationships itu broken, tapi kamu nggak willing buat toss itu out karena kamu so psychologically dependent.7:43
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  95. Turns out water alone isn't just the problem.Turns out air aja bukan just the problem.7:58
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